Keeping your sex life steamy and sexy can prove to be challenging sometimes. While some can turn the heat on in seconds… a few struggle to kick start the drive. The reasons may be that you’ve been married for a long time with too many other issues to stress about, exhausted or you probably just lack self-confidence. Whatever it may be, here are 8 sex tips for men to get your foot inside the door and boost your confidence, strength, and stability.
The following sex tips for men to be better in bed will also benefit our female readers, however, our primary focus is towards men.
So dudes or guys or misters… Do you want to improve your stamina? Improve your energy, self-confidence and keep rocking…?
If yes, read on to know more about our sex tips for you.
1. KEGEL EXERCISES
Kegel exercises help improve your sexual performance. It strengthens the pelvic floor muscles, which helps in increasing blood flow to the groin. Practicing them often also helps improve your bladder control and bowel functions. They are also capable of making orgasms more intense. Hence improving overall sexual function.
Kegel exercises are recommended to those struggling with premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. But irrespective of that, practicing them often helps improves your sexual health.
HOW TO DO IT?
Locate the muscles: When you are urinating, try controlling the flow. Stop for 2-3 milliseconds. The muscles you feel tightening up, are the ones you need to work on.
STEP 1: Contract these muscles for 4-5 counts, breathing normally.
STEP 2: Release and rest for a few more counts.
STEP 3: Repeat the steps for 10-15 minutes, twice or thrice in a day.
2 GROOM YOURSELF
A well-groomed man not only looks neat and clean but also exudes strength, power, and confidence. This increases your attractive quotient to new heights. It doesn’t require too much of an investment. Just more care and attention towards your body.
EVERYBODY SWEATS. That’s a well-known fact.
Yes, Sex is sweaty and messy too. But, make sure you bathe and smell good before you get into it. You want to maintain good hygiene and look more attractive to your partner. You may end up not having a partner if you don’t. So, save those deos for a different day and bath before sex.
Do you consider yourself to be well-groomed? Read our blog on7 GROOMING MISTAKES THAT EVERY MEN DOES to find out.
3. FORGET ABOUT PORN
Porn and Masturbation go hand in hand. Watching porn gets any man sexually aroused, most often leading to masturbation. It is a natural activity and helps relieve stress and tension.
But did you know about the side effects of watching too much porn?
Apart from distracting you from your daily routine, it also harms you mentally.
Watching too much porn can affect your short term memory.
Also, men who watch it regularly require more physical stimulation to keep going (if you know what I mean)… affecting your performance.
Too much porn changes the way your brain reacts to arousal. Also, BE REAL. Most of the images and videos are magnified and unrealistic. Watching it desensitizes you towards sex.
SO, try and forget about porn.
TIPS TO PREVENT YOU FROM WATCHING:
Cut down on it by involving yourself in various activities that spark your interest. Go for a walk, Write a poem, or Socialize.
4. MINIMUM 8 HOURS OF SLEEP
Your body needs rest. Make sure you get at least 6 to 8 hours of sleep in a day. This helps also helps in preventing stress.
You don’t want to be too tired for sex.
Again, a well-known fact. Sleep should be your priority. A minimum of 8 hours of sleep can help brighten your day and improve your overall activity.
The most embarrassing and a tad bit insulting(to your partner) is when and if you fall asleep while doing the deed. Sadly, it has happened before. Now, you don’t want to be part of that gang right?
So, switch off that phone, cuddle with your partner and sleep!
Nobody likes a “Wham Bam, Thank You, Ma’am”.
Take your time in making your partner feel more loved. A “quickie” is good too. But not always.
Women, especially love foreplay. We love the connection it builds and strengthens.
Foreplay is a great way to learn your partner’s sweet spots. Like some say, pleasing your partner, is what will get you there. It also means more sex. And which man is not up for it?
Also, slow and passionate sex with extended foreplay ends with intense orgasms. So aim more towards this.
6. QUIT SMOKING
Although it is a very common fact that smoking is injurious to health, it is a bad habit most people get into anyway. While most of them smoke out of peer pressure, some do it due to boredom and stress. Smoking can lead to cancer. It is not just harmful to the person smoking, but also to the ones around him/her.
How does smoking affect your sex life?
Nicotine is a dangerous and highly addictive chemical, mainly used in the manufacture of cigarettes. It causes hormonal imbalance and reduces sexual desire. It is also a cause of erectile dysfunction.
HOW TO STOP:
Try cutting down the number of cigarettes you smoke day by day. It is recommended you join a support group to help you through this ordeal.
7. BOOST YOUR TESTOSTERONES
Testosterone is the male sex hormone that regulates fertility. Apart from that, it is responsible for the development of bones and muscles, deepening of voice, development of facial hair and production of sperm.
Low testosterone levels lead to infertility and this is becoming too common. It also causes erectile dysfunction, and reduced sex drive.
What causes your testosterone levels to drop?
- Age-related factors
- Stress or Anxiety
- Too much Alcohol consumption
However, if the cause is identified and controlled, with treatment, one can get better.
Interested to know how you can increase your testosterone levels? Read our blog on 7 ways to boost your testosterone levels.
8. MASTERING EDGING
Also known as “surfing” or “peaking”, it refers to bringing yourself to the brink of your orgasm, and holding or maintaining that level of arousal for long periods of time. You know, like riding the crest of a wave, but not going over or under it. Like an expert “surfer”.
Why would you want to try this out? Well, some say that when you finally do let yourself tip over that brink after prolonged (*ahem*) ministrations, the resulting orgasm is much stronger than one where you don’t “surf the wave”.
But some also say that they have experienced irritation and frustration as they have been denied the shot of dopamine into their brain caused by the release and the resulting orgasm.
Now, why bring this into your sex life? It brings about greater sensitivity between the partners as the other person becomes aware of how close you are, and is privy to all those embarrassing little details like the sounds you make, your breathing becoming faster and your facial expressions. It prolongs the duration of the act, giving more pleasure to your partner. It brings about a modicum of self-control as well, cause if you can control that, you can control pretty much anything in your life.
So give it a go, and surf the wave!
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